You wouldn't be caught dead listening to Michael Bolton by a co-worker, yet suddenly your impending nuptials have you debating the pros and cons of Lionel Richie versus Kenny Rogers. Love songs for weddings are often ridiculed by guests if they seem inappropriate or cheesy, so tread lightly as you plan the music for your ceremony and reception.
After you've found a few songs that don't have potentially disruptive lyrics, put them all on a disc and listen to them one by one. Write down how you feel as you hear each song. Songs that make you feel sad or even slightly morose will only be amplified on your big day, when you'll experience your regular emotions times one thousand. Ask your bridal party or close friends to listen to the disc and share feedback on which songs feel the most appropriate and which should be relegated to the reception.
Finally, when choosing love songs for weddings that are hosted outdoors, make sure to select music that can actually be heard. Light instrumental numbers are pretty, but when played in an outdoor setting, can get lost in the wind or sounds of nearby traffic.
When choosing songs for the rest of your reception, make sure that you choose tunes that actually have a danceable beat. Some songs that sound wonderful in your shower or car can cause your guests to do a nervous shuffle when played at your reception. Two examples? "Stairway to Heaven" and "Bohemian Rhapsody." Both of these songs are perfect for the stiff drinks you'll be having after five years of marriage, but they should never, ever be on your reception playlist. Also avoid songs that may be offensive and uncomfortable for older guests, including tunes like "Closer" by Nine Inch Nails and anything that involves a rapper born after 1988.
Speaking of older guests, make sure to include a few slow songs in your DJ rotation. Love songs for weddings are a favorite of senior guests, who often do not have other occasions to dance in a public setting. Ask your special guests for personal requests prior to the big day to ensure that you'll choose songs that strike a cord.